A few lessons I have learnt this week inspired by @femmegypsy

Silly me forgot to get my ever important medicine yesterday as I was having too much fun which has resulted in the most wonderful result. I woke up super early this morning and not ready to get up, decided to read my beloved Twitter feed and came across a blog that I haven’t really indulged in before. Femmegypsy has captured my heart this morning and my imagination. A beautiful blog that I think resembles what I originally wanted my blog to be. A personal space that is dedicated to telling her story, sharing the good times and the not so good times. An honest space that oozes her love of writing and family with very little focus on marketing products and events. The kind of blog I love to read but battle to write. I love blogs that tell a story and share a bit of the bloggers true self.

A few weeks ago, I was lucky enough to organize an awesome Christmas in July party for a few fellow bloggers from Bloggers Who Bless. Part of the fun was each of us were assigned a Secret Santa except mine was not so secret as I was doing the assigning. We each had to stalk our fellow bloggers that we were buying gifts for to surprise them with a special gift on the 25 July. My Santa wrote to me and said that I don’t post many personal things on my blog although when she blessed me with my beautiful gifts, she could not have got it more spot on. I was surprised by the comment that I don’t really post personal things on my blog as I always thought that I did.

Looking back I can see that although what I have shared on the blog in the past has been more than I have ever shared in my life and I have let in so many other people into my life this year, I think I am ready to share just a little bit more. FemmeGypsy has inspired me this morning to write for the love of writing and so as I sit and wonder whether I will be brave enough to post this, I am excited to pour a little bit of myself into this post.

I try and keep my blog as a happy space that serves as a reminder of all the good things that happen in my life but I have realized that although this is generally what I want my blog to be about, it can become quite unbalanced and not a genuine reflection of my life. Don’t get me wrong, 2014 has most probably been one of my best years EVER and there have been so many wonderful experiences and people I have met, I welcome the nuance of writers block I have when it comes to writing about “negatives” as I have to be honest, this year has been pretty dam fantabulous and each experience I have had has resulted in something positive. That’s not to say I haven’t had my bad days or struggles. I guess I have just sort of turned a corner this year, a new leaf if you will, that I tend to focus on the good.

A few Lessons I have learnt this year week:

There is no age where you are too old to make new friends

One of my biggest fears which I can safely say is no longer a fear of mine is was rejection. This fear held me back from meeting new people or letting people into my life and I mean genuinely letting people into my heart.Last year after I started engaging in Twitter, I set up my very first Twitter coffee date with a very special person that inspired me from the very first tweet I read of hers. I gravitated towards this person, not only for the struggles she has faced that I can somewhat relate to but for her enthusiastic bubbly online personality. Lucky for me, Fawn said yes to meeting for coffee and as nervous as I was, I invited her to my all-time favorite spot in Jhb ( a first for me as I would usually not invite strangers to places I loved- probably a senseless fear of them not liking my spot) and yes the first meeting was a weird sensation but I left on a high.

Fawn and I parted ways for the December holidays and when we returned to our home city, we met for supper, this time at an even more personal space…..Fawn’s home. I still remember getting dressed for the occasion which was on a Sunday evening (another first for me as I never used to go out on a work night- oh how things have changed), anyways I was standing in front of my wardrobe wondering how to dress for this “date”. As I struggled with my internal ramblings of what not to wear and excuses to get out of this dinner that was making my palms sweat, I stepped back, took a breath, gave myself a stern “stop your nonsense” talk and chose my cheap yet comfortable black jumpsuit I had purchased from Pick N Pay clothing that made me feel a little sexy (to try and boost my confidence) but not too overdone because I didn’t want to scare this new person away. I made an important promise to myself that evening,

never again will I break plans unless I have a very very very good reason.

Anyhoo, turns out I needn’t have worried as Fawn was an excellent host and made me feel right at home. We chatted over her kitchen nook while she cooked her amazing chicken stir fry. She even made the dinner table look gorgeous with yellow flowers and bamboo and fairy flower lights telling me that since her double lung transplant, she always tries to make even the smallest of things in life a special occasion and so began one of the most precious and incredible friendship journeys that is now but one of so many I have been blessed with this year. A piece of advice that I doubt she knows really had the biggest impact on my life:

Make even the smallest occasions special

For the first time ever this year I really enjoyed my birthday. I mean I really embraced it and loved it with all my heart. I made a special promise to myself that I would thank each and every person who wished me Happy Birthday and treasure each and every word. I have even kept all my birthday cards on top of my newly installed shelves that my loving husband put up for me (this is a big deal) and I often look at them to remind me to

treat everyday as if its my birthday

(a piece of advice reinforced by FemmeGypsy’s birthday post). I don’t fear waking up in the morning early anymore and although I do love to sleep I now find myself excited and eager to wake up at 06h30 on a Saturday morning to meet my beloved Jade at Delta Park in the overcast weather to walk 5 km’s around a park. Every person I have met this year has brought something special into it and I have learnt so much about life through these wonderful people. Jade has taught me that it’s ok to come last in the race, the important thing is that I participated and I finished.

You don’t need to win or be the best to be happy

I was ecstatic that I received my Delta Park run race results and although my placing was 557 out of 560 participants, I did the 5km walk and what’s even better is I enjoyed it. I not only got my heart rate up which has its obvious benefits, I made a wonderful new friend that has taught me that even if you are really good at something,

it counts to hold somebody else hand and motivate them to push to even greater heights.

Jade is a seasoned runner and yet she patiently walked by my side the entire 5 km’s always encouraging me that it wasn’t much further and I was doing great. Seriously, could I ask for anything more from a walking buddy. BEST WALK EVER!!!!! Needless to say, we had a great time talking and chatting about things and I even got to learn about Jade’s love of London and the colour blue. My favourite part was that I now have a wonderful walk to look forward to every Saturday morning either at Delta Park or Florida and I am excited to watch this friendship grow.

New experiences and opportunities are everywhere

When you start to let people into your life and genuinely open up your home and heart to new things, the most amazing things start to happen. Just this week, an evening of dressing up fifties style turned out to be one of the most fun girl evenings out in a long time. What happened in the fifties stays in the fifties…..except of course the slow mo’s. Those slow mo’s need to be talked about because they were just so much fuuuuuuun. I got to be Fawn’s plus one at the 4th Street Wine Party which I will do a separate post on but we ended staying up until 03h00 in the morning and have since then decided to start our very own reality TV series. Lol. Just kidding, we want to start filming some of our awesome new adventures and ever important opinions about life (wink wink) and cut them into tiny little bite sized chunks, add some awesome music and pass them as first grade filmsters (yep, that is a word now) on YouTube. That’s right!!! (say that in a Daisy voice from Mario Party and you will get what I mean) Watch this space……

Anyhoo, I digress. I have found so many loving people in the world this year and even though I have come across some not so loving people (so very few I must add), my life has become a magical place this year that I am finding new and wonderful things every week to enjoy and I just want to thank FemmeGypsy for being so real and open in her blog as she has inspired me to be a bit more me on mine.

Being your true authentic self rocks

Here’s to the next adventure and chapter…may it be a wonderful one!

Now I am off to have my morning walk and get ready for another day filled with fun activities from tea at my beloved coffee shop, La Vie en Rose to meet with one of the nicest people you will ever meet, A Taste of Tea, then off to see my gorgeous sister in laws new home that is being built at the moment and some very much needed and long overdue time with my bestie Buzz this evening but first, let me take a……..nah my mascara aint on yet (some things will never change).

Till next time

Keeping it real

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7 thoughts on “A few lessons I have learnt this week inspired by @femmegypsy

  1. I just read this post now with a cup of tea in my hand and I don’t know why but I had a little tear in my eye too (but a good and happy tear!) I am going to whatsapp you first thing tomorrow to organise a coffee date – I have to see you and hear your infectious laugh ASAP! This was a beautiful post Sash, and so well written! You have a heart of gold xxx

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    • Hi Minks

      You have no idea how much your comment means to me. I really needed to read that at this very moment. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and commenting. I can’t wait for our coffee date. Hugs and kisses

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    • Hiiiii lovelies 🙂 I cannot begin to explain how much this post means to me. I had a few tears in my eyes reading yesterday morning how much my honest posts meant to you and the fact that they inspired an entire post of your own! That is just wow. Thank you for such kind words! And Ali – yay for spreading the love xxx

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      • Tamz, (I hope I can call you Tamz) as I kinda feel a certain kinship with you (wink wink). I really can’t express how much I love your writing and how special your blog is. Thank you for taking the time to share your stories and I hope we can enjoy a catch up coffee (first date) soon. I would love to meet the beautiful person behind the gorgeous words. You have def made my top 3 list of inspirational writers. Hugs

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    • Hi Ali hun

      My beautiful friend, thank you for reading my blog and spreading your wonderful love and joy. I love every minute with you and am so proud to call you my friend. Hugs

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